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Category Archives: Reflection

What Questions Are You Asking? (Three Questions For Reconnection)

We are the questions we ask. We are the way we inquire, curiously, about the world we work in. As I was going through what was (for me), a difficult pregnancy, I looked to my partner and asked, time and time again: “How do I make it through this?”  It’s hard to believe now, butKeep Reading

How Do You Feel Before, During, and After?

Today I want to share with you about a way to connect inwardly, with yourself.  But first, a quick story. I work with coaches. A lot of coaches. I’ve worked with college coaches, swim coaches, book coaches, life coaches… you name it, I like doing it.  One of my most recent coaches has worked with me onKeep Reading

Take up SPACE

Take up space. Take up space with your body. With your gestures, with your height, with your size. If you’re petite, take up space. If you’re tall, take up space. Fill the room with the weight of your body, and then expand again with the weight of your soul. Take up space with your voice.Keep Reading

Focus On What You Can Do

Being a new mom is suddenly, urgently grounding. It’s hard to leave the house because, well, there’s a baby right there. He needs me. Unless I get a babysitter, daycare, or my husband is home, I’m here, and it’s me and the baby. This makes so many things infinitely harder. Leaving the house? That’s prettyKeep Reading

How We See Ourselves: On Identity, Labels, and Privilege

Do you know the story about when a man is asked to look in a mirror? He’s asked what he sees. He says “myself” (usually he says his name, “I see John,” etc). A woman looks in the mirror and says, “I see a woman.” A black woman says, “I see a black woman.” How weKeep Reading

The Necessity of Darkness

I popped out of bed this morning and thought to myself, boy, it’s really dark outside. Usually I pull the curtains back and there’s at least a tiny bit of light. I’m an early riser, and naturally wake up around 6AM, give or take when I get to sleep. This morning at 5:56AM, it wasKeep Reading

What Are The Best Books On Life And Meaning You Should Have A Copy Of?

On my desk, there are a few stacks of books that surpass the kindle test. While I am a huge believer in the beauty of physical books, I also put an equal amount on my tablet. But beyond the bookshelves and the kindle — among the thousands of books my husband and I read — there are a fewKeep Reading

How I Make My Morning Routine Work For Me

I struggle to do a morning routine. In my head, my morning routine is perfect: twenty minutes of yoga, twenty minutes of writing, twenty minutes of meditation before I start the day. There’s a steaming cup of tea, a sunny window, a book if I’m feeling leisurely. This is all in my dream. In myKeep Reading

Go Your Own Way

“Squeezing your business (or career, or relationship, or lifestyle) into someone else’s plan hurts, and it denies your own self-leadership.” — Tara Gentile, Quiet Power Strategy There are a lot of plans and products out there that sell you a process or a formula. It seems so sexy, doesn’t it? A prescription-ready answer for buildingKeep Reading

When the blues hit, what do you do? Notes on darkness, sadness, and melancholy.

What do you do when you get sad? Sometimes dwelling in darkness can be a helpful, healthy adventure. Other times, too much time in the dark can prompt stagnation and wallowing. How do you know how far to go? When is it too much? When is darkness healthy and when is digging into rumination tooKeep Reading