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Why We’re Lonelier Than Ever (and Why Marriage is Falling Apart), According to Kurt Vonnegut

How many people do you interact with on a daily basis? Not online, or in your email inbox, but in real life? What about during the week? I had to do a quick tally — (ten coworkers, my husband, a few close friends I see regularly, an occasional dinner or evening out), — maybe twentyKeep Reading

Learning How to Meditate

I finally achieved the badge for meditating three days in a row on the app I’m using to meditate. To be clear, I didn’t know that this even existed. It took me 8 months to figure THAT out — or, depending on how you count, it took me 31 years to figure out how to sit still.Keep Reading

15 Quotes on Meditation and Mindfulness From Jon Kabat-Zinn

I have a small (but growing) stack of wisdom books on my desk that speak to the human experience. One of them is Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book “Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation In Everyday Life.” I’ve highlighted and re-highlighted both my digital and print copies. It’s simple, yet profound. You are here “When itKeep Reading

What To Do When You See Someone Being Harassed

It was early evening, just after the sun set, around 7 PM on Fall night in Brooklyn. My husband and I were walking through the crowds outside of Atlantic Terminal. I saw a young woman, walking alone, get approached by a man with a clipboard. “Heyyy!” he said, “Do you know about …” The sound drifted off,Keep Reading

Why Are We So Afraid of Having These Conversations?

A man jumped out from behind a subway pole at me while I was absorbed in my cell phone late this evening. I jumped, startled. He started to ask me about whether or not an F train was coming, and then, mid-sentence, said: “Wait, why did you jump? Why are you scared?” “Are you scaredKeep Reading

Saying vs. Doing

Wisdom is nothing more profound than an ability to follow your own advice. — Sam Harris. I struggle with writing essays that sound too much like advice, because I know inevitably as soon as I tell you the ten tricks for getting into bed early, I’ll suffer bouts of insomnia, wake up at odd hours,Keep Reading

Habit change, solitude, and stillness

January certainly went by in a hurry. I have quite a few things for you, and I’m just now sitting down to send you these notes. If you’re interviewing at a new company, here are 12 questions to ask during your interview. How do you find stillness and solitude in a hyper-connected world? (Podcast) Want to make habitKeep Reading

An invitation into the darkness: the value of rumination and notes on finding your own inner guru.

The darkness of winter: time to turn inwards. The northern hemisphere is swaddled in darkness, as it is each winter. Today is the longest night of the year; the shortest day. The sun will rise late and quickly dash off, leaving us behind to contemplate the cold, wind, and dreariness of night. Despite the prominenceKeep Reading

Have you ever lost your temper?

This is an excerpt of an essay from my twelve-essay short series on Grace and Gratitude. Each day, I send a story with a nugget, an idea, and a practice — everything from losing your temper, to finding small happiness, to practicing meditation. The program is here; or just enjoy the essay below as aKeep Reading

The man at the grocery store.

The man in the grocery store is in love with me. I can tell by the way that his eyes watch me, and the way he smiles at me from behind the counter. I pull my basket up around the edge of the aisle, glancing briefly at the pop tart magazines. Mmm… chocolate. I grabKeep Reading

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